Re: A tribute to the nice guys.
Hmm. Being a safety-paranoid person (ie. I was THE school bully in my childhood, so I find it easy to watch for the signs), I have a simple compromise for door-holding. It's nice to hold the door for people, but there's two ways to hold it open. Opening it and letting someone else go first (the wrong way IMO), and opening, going through yourself, and holding it so the person behind you can grab it (the right way). Women can't bitch about anything because they HAVE to touch the door themselves, but they might not pick up on how it makes you the first person to meet whatever is on the other side of said door, which again IMO is how it should be done. Sexist? Chivalry? Neither? All depends on perspective.
That video... heh. She certainly deserved something, I would've thrown her into the pool myself, less risk of injury. Woman or not, the fact of the matter is you shouldn't hit someone unless you (and/or person you're with) feel physically threatened. She tossed her drink in his face. Is he physically threatened or hurt? No, so no need to hit her. Just humiliate her a bit. Tossing her in the pool, undoing her top (I believe it was tied at the back there), acceptable responses to me. Or if you can make a snappy comeback about her foreign status. Certainly doesn't need to potentially crack her skull over something like this.
Edit: Chibi, the thing with us nice guys is we care about others before ourselves. That's probably why we 'finish last', because we won't go after things we want because it doesn't matter as much to us. We do have a backbone, believe me, but it has nothing to do with us. Agree wholeheartedly with the sentiment behind meals/reach. You can take care of yourself, you don't need someone to do it all for you. Balance, to me, is the goal. You're both going to the same place, so hold the damned door. She wants the cup, not you, so let her get her own cup. You're both sharing the meal, so share the bill. Let her do things for herself that are ONLY for herself, unless she asks for help. *shrugs*. Chivalry through convenience.
Hmm. Being a safety-paranoid person (ie. I was THE school bully in my childhood, so I find it easy to watch for the signs), I have a simple compromise for door-holding. It's nice to hold the door for people, but there's two ways to hold it open. Opening it and letting someone else go first (the wrong way IMO), and opening, going through yourself, and holding it so the person behind you can grab it (the right way). Women can't bitch about anything because they HAVE to touch the door themselves, but they might not pick up on how it makes you the first person to meet whatever is on the other side of said door, which again IMO is how it should be done. Sexist? Chivalry? Neither? All depends on perspective.
That video... heh. She certainly deserved something, I would've thrown her into the pool myself, less risk of injury. Woman or not, the fact of the matter is you shouldn't hit someone unless you (and/or person you're with) feel physically threatened. She tossed her drink in his face. Is he physically threatened or hurt? No, so no need to hit her. Just humiliate her a bit. Tossing her in the pool, undoing her top (I believe it was tied at the back there), acceptable responses to me. Or if you can make a snappy comeback about her foreign status. Certainly doesn't need to potentially crack her skull over something like this.
Edit: Chibi, the thing with us nice guys is we care about others before ourselves. That's probably why we 'finish last', because we won't go after things we want because it doesn't matter as much to us. We do have a backbone, believe me, but it has nothing to do with us. Agree wholeheartedly with the sentiment behind meals/reach. You can take care of yourself, you don't need someone to do it all for you. Balance, to me, is the goal. You're both going to the same place, so hold the damned door. She wants the cup, not you, so let her get her own cup. You're both sharing the meal, so share the bill. Let her do things for herself that are ONLY for herself, unless she asks for help. *shrugs*. Chivalry through convenience.
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