Also i say no Homo beforehand so its cool
Whatever you tell your hand before is not relevant; taking pleasure in stroking a c*ck is undoubtedly 100% gay. There's nothing wrong with that, don't worry.
From the sound of it, at least you're faithful and have only 1 partner. That's cool too.
Jokes aside, from the top of my head:
- Monster girls dreams by threshold [GIC]. Development is consistent, and a whole dungeon is about this kind of hypnosis attack.
- FOBS by zell [GIC] has a few, and arguably heterosexual onanism is key to capturing many girls.
- From what I've understood, Succubus Senki has that kind of temptation thing; you'd have to cope with the engine and gameplay to confirm (that, I couldn't do).
If it's about some kind of JOI (ie, orders to player, not to a MC), there are quite a few Voice Works about that (SND category in DLsite). There's even some kind of game: RJ139031, with some other packs (see DLsite description).
edit: oh, I forgot Fap Queen from yaluar (free, on itchio and Steam). But that's more "resist a given time / challenge" than mind control.
Also, eratohoreverse (that pedy guy translated a bunch of it) fits the bill 100% but that might be quite niche... (it's a
reverse slave trainer)