Scarlet_Periwinkle
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Okay, so sorry if there is a thread like this and I didn't see it. Please move/merge it as needed.
So, I am having a possible dilemma and figured the anonymity that the Internet offers might be a good place to data mine. my partner is going away for work/school/etc. in the Fall and I need to stay where we both currently live for at least 6 months (realistically more like 12-18) due to work and other commitments. The plan is for me to then move there as well. I've been thinking for a long time that this person is "the one" (stereotypical I know lol), however, we've never been apart for long periods of time, and I'm deathly afraid of this long distance relationship. I came up with the (probably stupid) idea of a commitment ring. A ring that would basically say "I'm all about you, but if you find that moving is too hard, no regrets." A potential "out" that something like an engagement ring, at least in my mind, doesn't really allow.
I'm specifically looking at a
My fear is that the claddagh could be seen as pushing an engagement, especially if they don't want to take that step before they move. My greater fear is that it'll look like a "cop out" from actually asking for engagement.
I know I'm new to the forum, but I figured I'd give it a shot. Your thoughts are much appreciated!!
So, I am having a possible dilemma and figured the anonymity that the Internet offers might be a good place to data mine. my partner is going away for work/school/etc. in the Fall and I need to stay where we both currently live for at least 6 months (realistically more like 12-18) due to work and other commitments. The plan is for me to then move there as well. I've been thinking for a long time that this person is "the one" (stereotypical I know lol), however, we've never been apart for long periods of time, and I'm deathly afraid of this long distance relationship. I came up with the (probably stupid) idea of a commitment ring. A ring that would basically say "I'm all about you, but if you find that moving is too hard, no regrets." A potential "out" that something like an engagement ring, at least in my mind, doesn't really allow.
I'm specifically looking at a
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, since it has been mentioned before that they really enjoy them. Conveniently, we also both have some Irish heritage. Given the ring's symbolism, it seems to fit my situation. My other option is to propose right out before they leave. The proposal would be seen as more than just a little out of the ordinary; given both family's religious and cultural traditions.My fear is that the claddagh could be seen as pushing an engagement, especially if they don't want to take that step before they move. My greater fear is that it'll look like a "cop out" from actually asking for engagement.
I know I'm new to the forum, but I figured I'd give it a shot. Your thoughts are much appreciated!!