Re: Hate Thread
@sinfulwolf
Yeah, i was joking.
Most people in emotion are irrational. I'm getting pretty tired of the same few arguments I keep having with this girl where I offer logical points to which she offers double standards, to which I shut down, at which point she says something personal or sarcastic in a way to talk to down to me as if superiority automaticall wins her the argument. And the few times I ever call her out of talking down to me, all she has to do is turn on the tears and it immediately gets turned into a situation where I had upset her.
Hahahaha, women's structure of bullying in a nutshell. The main problem is that she is upset to begin with from a number of small things, there is no way to win this kind of discussions, since you lose by accepting the challenge, the only thing you can do is control the focus of the discussion, avoid critical subjects and limit the damage as much as possible. This behavior is very common among women of all ages, rarely seen in men, probably because female minds are more apt to multitasking, usually when a man complains about something you can tell that's the thing that bothers him, simpler minds, impulsive behavior. When a woman do that you can never tell for sure what the origin of the problem is, because generally they tend to force themselves to be more "mature" by ignoring small things and accepting the partner's flaws without complaining, as a result these things they can't really ignore, cause humans subconcious is a bitch, builds up inside into a powder keg that burst when you less expect it to, just need a spark to light an association of idea process and boom...
My point being that you can't reason with someone if you don't know what the real problem is, it's like trying to stop a fire with a water gun, and you can't address the real problem because she is probably not aware of it herself.
In my experience if you can avoid mines and make sure she gets out her pent up stress, while not giving her a good reason to leave the room first, and manage to end the discussion in a draw, you can get out of it with only a good amount of suppressed rage, that usually some good videogame violence can solve in 5 minutes, or some good old make up sex.
You can't solve the problem because it would imply changing her behavior pattern and this is something only she can do to herself, you either are mature enough to accept you can't change someone against their will, and keep helping her release her stress, or you force yourself to be mature enough to do that(as i think you're doing by your being tired of it), building a keg yourself, or you drop the relationship(because all other actions result in hatred and pain).
Obviously this doesn't apply to every relationships.
@Luppikun
If you really
hate yaoi she's an asshole for forcing it on you and you have a right to tell her to keep her fetish in check, if it's not that big of a problem(as it seems to be from your "i'd kiss a guy" statement) this goes in the ranting thread...